bellefrenchies:

got asked to make it rebloggable

the grammar and errors can be accepted bc it’s 2 am and im not a native speaker yay

We should make it a thing where we debunk heterosexist or homophobic arguments with canon material.

I need validation that two women can form meaningful romantic bonds. I’ve been putting off this for months until I finally decided: “Screw it. I’m gonna put my rambling, ugly thoughts out here. It’s not like anyone will care”
Part 1 (Feb. 19/ April 9, 2013)

• I need Red Snow because I’d like to think acceptance & close friendship can lead to romance
• Red Beauty - even if you have a True Love who is abusive/shady/ the dark one doesn’t mean you can’t find another love 
• Sleeping warrior - because love between women can (almost) be canon. 
• Swan Queen- women can love men AND women. If society and the world continuously control you …maybe you can still get love. I’d like them to find some safety & happiness (easiest for Henry thing too) 
• Reworking of conventional fairy tales, a twist. Regina sympathy. 
• To know that it’s normal for women to love each other.

Part 2 (maybe late April 2013?)
Our happy endings

Disclaimer: I am a white, middle class, cis, able bodied woman so
If (when) I’m called out on anything don’t expect me to respond right away. I’ll be processing /taking my time so I don’t respond with some defensive “oh woe is me” whiteness shit.

• Regina and evil. At the beginning of the show i thought we’re going to have a nuanced bad character then I got to “wait, what the fuck? Why are the “good” guys completely ignoring her? Wtf?!!”
• I’ve always like the “good” albeit boring types ….because I was told they were good (whatever that meant). But thanks to OuaT and Regina Mills I question the very construct if the dicthomy. Also I’ve become more critical/analytical. 
• Swan Queen. Really got me at start of season 2 (they make magic, Emma believes her. Reading eshusplayground with her insightful commentary /analysis really hooked me onto the show, especially this couple. I’d like …Henry to have 2 moms with complimented patenting styles. 
• I seem to ship Ruby/Red whenever the another women’s romantic man leaves something to be desired. (Red/Snow seem so close. I’d like to imagine friendship and trust can lead to a stable romance. Ruby/Belle is nice, again, because they were friends (before the lets keep amnesiac Belle sedated!!!) (also it amuses me that their Storybrooke counterparts might of gotten along though Lacey might be more “bad” than Ruby.) Of course there’s Sleeping Warrior (Aurora/Mulan) which is particularly canon (I hope Philip doesn’t come back since he was boring.
• Xena show. Hercules show and subtext. Which I could DEAL with as a teenager , me and my internalized lesbophobia. So there are parallels to Swan Queen so I think I might watch? Watching will give me anxiety …I still have have so much baggage (thanks to heteronormativity) 
• delve into my still problems, anxiety, stress, hide/none must know, ingrained women loving is bad especially if it harkened back to the 90s.

calculaic:

[Disclaimer: This isn’t directed at the fandom or any group or person in it, I love you all. It’s directed more at Adam & Eddy and showrunners in general. This is just something a previous post got me thinking about. It probably qualifies as a rant, though, it may be a bit extreme (I dunno, feels reasonable to me), and I am probably going to curse a lot.]

I’m sure some of you know I’m fairly optimistic when it comes to Swan Queen. I think maybe it can be taken as somewhat naive on my part, like I’ve just never shipped f/f before and I don’t know the odds, like I don’t know how miserable it can be. But, trust me, I do. I’m old enough to have had my share of doomed f/f ships. So I got to thinking about how that’s possible; how can I be aware of the reality of the situation, and yet still have such faith? And I realized, it’s a different kind of belief than even I ever knew.

My optimism isn’t passive. It’s not cute or sweet or willingly ignorant. It is aggressive, deliberate, and unforgiving. Truth be told, it’s an act of defiance more than an act of faith.

I know that it’s very likely OUAT is only queer-baiting us. I know that’s the most probable scenario. I know there’s no precedence for a ship like this ever becoming canon.

Yet I still believe in it. When I look at the facts, when I think about the show and the themes they’ve laid out, the clues they’ve dropped… I see Swan Queen.

Take out the heteronormative mindset we’re all conditioned with, and it’s not illogical to see this ship heading towards canon somewhere down the line. The only reason anyone says it’ll never be canon, the only reason it’s called a crack ship or a fantasy ship, is because it’s two women.

And if they choose to drag us along, tease us, with no intention of ever really considering it for canon, then I’m going to choose to wholeheartedly believe in it anyway.

Because I’m sick of signing this goddamn unspoken agreement we have with shows that bait us. That invisible contract that says, “We’re going to queer-bait you, we won’t admit we are, but we will, and you don’t get to be mad about it when it’s not canon, because you knew we were baiting you all along.”

I’ve agreed to this too many times before, because it’s all we’re given and it’s better than nothing, right? Well fuck that. I’m done.

If they’re going to bait us and pretend they’re not, then I’m going to ship it and pretend I don’t know they are.

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Finish the sentence!

calliopesmuse:

I opened a new FB group. It’s 100% FEMSLASH for any couple from any show! Real life het couples are not discussed and neither are canon het couples from the show unless it’s in light of the femslash pairing. It’s open to anyone as long as the rules are followed. Come on over, join if you want, and bring a friend! (BTW, I’m working on the banner!)

[Image: Regina, Henry and Emma walk away from the viewer. Regina’s hand is on Henry’s back, and Emma’s hand is on Henry’s back and on top of Regina’s.]

I need Swan Queen because I’d like to think that someday things will be OK for me out there. #ourhappyendingsOUAT

As much as LGBTQ people are made invisible in the show, it’s always fun to imagine possibilities for LGBTQ folks in the world of OUAT.

With that in mind …

If you could wave a magic wand and have a gay bar, LGBT center, or other LGBTQ-friendly establishment show up in the Enchanted Forest, what would it be like?

ragged-writer:

Except… There’s this message in my inbox about how I need to be nicer. About how people would love my ship more if I was. About how I shouldn’t speak. Shouldn’t be heard. I should be silent. I should sit quietly and be nice. It’s almost worse then hearing my family bash on the lgbt*q community or friends I’ve got. Or hearing how lesbians are sick.

That I can deal with. I’m use to it. But someone….someone telling me what to do, how to act, how to speak….when did my voice become not allowed? When did my opinion become less then yours? Is it because I love women? Is it because I’m damaged and I can’t spell sometimes or I’ll repeat words? Why…why do I have to hold my pain inside?

Why does my pain, something that rips me in two, destroys the fragile pieces of my rotted soul, have to stay inside? Because it hurts your feelings? Because its negative about your ship? A ship that fucks over a fairy tale about a man who loves a woman so much he gives her everything and let’s her come and go as she pleases? That turns it into a fucking perversion? That spits on any idea of choice and free will?

Pain your ship caused by telling me my voice was too loud. That it was wrong. That it needs to be nicer. I’m so…I’m so weary of being nice. You know what happens when you are nice? People take. They fucking take and take and take til you are left stranded in the desert with nothing to give but bleached and cracked bones.

Even then you give those too. Cause it’s the right thing to do. I’m so weary of having no bones, of being kind, of having no safe place because of your ship mates. Don’t attack mine. Don’t attack mine for wanting to know if we can see someone like us on the screen, if we can get a god damn fairy tale with a happy ending, one that doesn’t end with a beating, a word craved into broken bodies, memories etched into flesh like how their “cure” left a brand on your soul. Because we don’t get to see many of them. We don’t get to see a happy ending that isn’t ripped away like a scream from a terrified throat. Don’t scream at them for asking about if we can have hope. Because some, like me, need to know that evil queens get happy endings, that a savior who has issues can help her and her queen help her mend the holes abandonment and abuse have left behind. I need to know that a woman who looks in the mirror and sees a monster with fur and claws, who longs for death finds a reason to believe she’s not a monster, because the librarian she loves only sees her as the woman she is. I need to know that a princess isn’t alone anymore because she has her warrior by her side. Because I..we…so many of us need hope.

Cause we watch as you take it from us. They’re straight, eww no way, how dare you say any of that, you speak out. In your words, in your orders that we’re all the same, it’s hard for all of us. Tell me, when was the last time you walked into a house of worship and felt like the ground was going to swallow you whole because you can’t stop loving this beautiful person, who’s trapped in the wrong body, who secretly wishes they were born with the gender you identify with and want them to join you as who they truly are.

But… It doesn’t matter. The sanctity of my safe place… The joy I find there. That doesn’t matter to you. You tag your hateful words and I fight back screaming at you to leave because I need to feel safe somewhere. And all that matters is that, we bother your ship. We should be silent. We should be out of sight. Hell some of our ship mates believe that so congrats for getting them on your side.

All I want… I just want to… I don’t want to fight. I’m tried of fighting. I just want my safe place back. Why can people fucking leave it alone?! Just…let us have our happy endings, is that too much to ask?

[IMAGE: An anonymous ask that reads, “I want the fighting to stop. I want the pain to stop. I want a place for ALL QUEERS, not just cishomo, white guys or “versatile” white women. I want trans* people, I want genderfluids and neutros. I want gay. I want bi. I want pansexuality. I want asexuality. I want aromantic, etc. characters. Once Upon A Time is a show with a core that is basically humanity and society, and surprise, surprise HUMANITY IS NOT JUST STRAIGHT, CIS AND WHITE. Give me a happy ending, give us a happy ending.”]

relax-o-vision:

Dear Adam Horowitz,

Dear Edward Kitsis,

When I was twelve years old I fell off a hammock, head first.

I heard a thud, and a crack in my neck, and I didn’t dare to move for almost half an hour.

I lay on the ground with my cheek pressed to the floor, and I mentally counted my bones. I was so shocked that I almost didn’t realize that I hadn’t hurt myself.

I didn’t know that I was lesbian then.

Actually, that’s not correct—I knew that I was queer from the moment I was capable of knowing anything at all.

The mind named itself. The mind tells us who we are long before we have language to express ourselves.

Something else that I knew, however, was that it was better not to tell my parents of my accident. On top of the shock I had just gone through I didn’t want to be scolded for my stupidity as well.

This is not the story of how my own silence almost killed me.

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[IMAGE: A photo of a piece of paper that reads, “I need Swan Queen because…it’s one of the few places I can go to where I can dream of what True Love and Happy Endings could be like for me as a queer woman of color. #ourhappyendingsouat”]

[IMAGE: An ask that reads, “I need Swan Queen/Red Beauty/Sleeping Warrior because the lack of LGBTQ* representation on a show about true love is like saying: “Gay love cannot be true love” and there have been enough generations forced to grow up believing they are wrong to love who they love, forced to believe what they’re feeling can’t be real.”]